Solitude; a word for loneliness in peace.
We’re just an individual creature in the most crowded place in the world.
Hii, hope you’re feeling good today. It is the last edition on August 2024. There are so much more to explore on September 2024. God bless us in every endeavor we try.
Let’s talk about solitude and teamwork.
I was on my way home after I fought with one of partner in business about team success weekly meeting. I didn’t it was necessary, it added the whole pressure on every shoulder in the room. I demanded to cancel all the plan related to meeting. “After all, this ain’t an urgency for the company. We still need extra hour to support the important plan for the next month.” I said to the leader. “I agree with you, but I think, that weekly meeting will be an advantage for the succession of company.” she replied. Well, after a hard discussion, we agreed to make it twice a week with less than an hour.
When I was in my car, I asked back myself on why was it so hard for me to agree the weekly meeting for that team. Was I having a hard time in team work? Or was it only because of the priority list in the company? The second question, I think, was too naive and too vague. The first question was hard to explore, because it would explore my haunted past and it was difficult to imagine such drama again. As a woman who lived alone in a big house, I used to think that everything was better to do in a solitude space and in alone-space.
I thought, it would be work for many individuals since our brain could produce more ideas when we’re alone with ourselves. I did believe that discussion is a powerful tool for democracy, but only if it runs in effective and efficient way. How to do it effectively? Everyone in the group must have bring their own ideas, and indeed the conversation will have a productive moment.
But, again, I still can’t have answer on why was it so hard for me to agree on that weekly meeting plan.
My other half came into with a wine and glasses both in his hands. “The protest was on fire, you have to know it. There were lots of important thing happened during the protest.” he told me. He was in the most important protest in the city during this week. His work as a Policy Researcher brought him to be an activist who actively spoke the truth for a better society. “What was the protest about? I totally forgot about it.” I asked while rubbing my head. “It is about age requirement in job application. It was simple to see, but totally important to explore, you know.” then he explained the rules in constitutional law and the reality of workplace. I couldn’t stop thinking on what they were so on fire to bring the issue to the street.
“Because, some work will be better done publicly in front of many eyes. That we should put our hand together, it ignites the truest spirit and brings signal to everyone in the room. Some work better done in solitude, but there are other important issues need to be publicly.” his last answer gave a fresh wind into my head.
“You know, I was thinking about your answer. It related to my situation right now. The leader on sustainable living program insisted to make a weekly meeting to bond each other. And I disagree with the idea, because it’s only to increase the cost of productivity and bonding shouldn’t be happened in weekly meeting. However, we decided to make once in two weeks. But, still, I was having hard time to proceed the conversation and the deal. Would it be a good deal?”
“It would be, I hope so. Probably it is not bonding you guys are talking, it’s the outcome, right?”
“Yes”
“You have lived in a very solitude life for years, but don’t make it as an excuse for a team work. In solitude, you can find peace, but in a healthy team work you can produce many things. Remember about the African Proverb: He who travels alone travels fastest, but in the company of friends you go farther.”
I sighed deeply.
“Don’t you have any bad past experience about team work?”
“No, it was unnecessary to think deeply about this, but surely I know that we’re just an individual creature in the most crowded place in the world. “
We smiled to each other knowing that we are safe to tell our problem and not afraid of being judged or those unsolicited advices.
That’s it. Thank you for reading. Hope you get something from this text.
See you on the next article.
Melva Bintang.
